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Audio/Video Script:
Fishing
Dr. Wally: "Hey Eli!"
Eli: "Hi!"
Dr. Wally: "How are you doing?’
Eli: "Good."
Dr. Wally: "You’re out fishing with your dad?"
Eli: "Um-hum."
Dr. Wally: "Are you having fun?"
Eli: "Yeah."
Dr. Wally: "Do you like fishing with your dad?"
Eli: "Yeah."
Dr. Wally: "That’s great. How about you, Dad?"
Dad: "It’s great for me. I’m lucky he likes to do what I like to do."
Dr. Wally: "That’s just almost too good to be true, huh?"
Dad: "Yes it is."
Dr. Wally: "You both like to do the same thing. Pretty cool! Are there
other things you like doing together?"
Dad: "We like to hike in the woods, play at parks, play soccer and play
basketball- basically just play outside quite a bit."
Dr. Wally: "He’s an outside man, huh?"
Dad: "Yes he is."
Eli: "Yeah."
Dr. Wally: "I think he probably likes sword play too, doesn’t he?"
Dad: "He does like swords quite a bit. My knuckles show all the signs of
it!"
Dr. Wally: "I bet. So now if you’re picking, would you pick sword play?"
Dad: "I probably wouldn’t be sword playing on my own time but I do like
doing it with him and he absolutely loves it so we make some time for that.
Dr. Wally: "And that’s the key, isn’t it? The key is that you figure out
what he loves to do. That’s the thing! You also have a little girl names Addie,
is that right?"
Dad: "I do. She’s two and a half and Eli is five so she likes very
different things than Eli does. She’s not as much into swords as her big
brother. She likes play dough, blocks, coloring, to have books read to her so we
spend a lot of time with her on the floor, on the couch, or at the kitchen table
playing."
Dr. Wally: "So since Addie joined your family, you’ve probably done a lot
more play dough than you did in the early part of your life, would you say?"
Dad: "Absolutely."
Dr. Wally: "And that’s the key-figuring out what all she loves to do and
doing it. Eli, do you happen to like worms?"
Eli: "I do!"
Dr. Wally: "Oh, okay. Would you like to have a worm?"
Eli: "Sure. I like that kind!"
Dr. Wally: "So it seems to me like you and your wife really try to be
kind to children. Is that true?"
Dad: "We do. And most of the time it’s easy because that’s the way I was
treated when I was a child. But there are days when it’s been a long day and the
people you’ve been working with haven’t been nice to you and then it takes a
real concerted effort to be kind and forgiving to kids."
Dr. Wally: "Yeah, sometimes you probably have to, as you come up to the
door, say ‘I’m going to be kind’, don’t you?"
Dad: "Yeah, I have to take my time before opening the door."
Dr. Wally: "Yeah. It takes a real effort and commitment but it pays off,
doesn’t it?"
Dad: "It does."
Dr. Wally: "So are there times when your children would like to do
something and you can’t do it? Like maybe Eli would like to go fishing and you
can’t. How do you handle that?"
Dad: "Well, if Eli would like to go fishing tonight, we might get out a
map and look at where we were going to go or look at the fishing gear we would
take, get out a book or look up kinds of fish on the internet. So he’ll feel
like we’re going fishing even if we haven’t gotten there yet."
Dr. Wally: "So it’s almost like having a fishing experience without
going!"
Dad: "That’s right."
Dr. Wally: "So you acknowledge that he’d love to go, he wishes he could
go, but you do something in its place, don’t you?"
Dad: "And it’s easy for me because I’d like to go fishing too, even if
it’s a Wednesday night, so I’m not joking with him when I tell him."
Dr. Wally: "And if it weren’t just something you would love to do, you
could understand it was something that he wanted to do. You could say, ‘wouldn’t
it be great if we could do some more sword play to night or wouldn’t it be great
if …That understanding is such a key part. So, when they’re disappointed you try
to understand, you try to do the best you can, you provide some alternative
activity?"
Dad: "That’s right."
Dr. Wally: "Great. Would you say that overall there’s more of the
positives, more of the kindness than there is of the negative?"
Dad: "Absolutely. There are times when a stern ‘no’ is required, when
there’s bickering or fighting or someone is in danger but most of the time we
try to look for the things that are good and key in on that."
Dr. Wally: "Yeah. And by looking for the good and talking about it then
it encourages more good, doesn’t it?"
Dad: "That’s right."
Dr. Wally: "It focuses the whole family organization on that positive.
That’s great. Wow. Anything else that you show love to the kids that’s really
effective?"
Dad: "One of the ways that I do that on the weekend, when they’re doing
something they don’t want to do like taking a nap, I’ll join them.
Dr. Wally: "Okay. So you take a nap with them!"
Dad: "We take a team nap every once in awhile and that makes it easier
for them to accept it too."
Dr. Wally: "That’s great. Well, I hope you have fun with your Dad. It’s
sure good to see you! We’ll see you guys later."
Dad: "Thanks Dr. Wally. Bye!"
Dr. Wally: "Bye!"
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